Going on a 'real date,' settling
downEastburn finds acceptance --
and a life partner
MAKING HIS WAY: ONE MAN'S JOURNEY TO THRIVE AND
By BILL MOOR
Chrisa and Brett Eastburn get ready to eat the first pieces
of their wedding cake.
Brett and Chrisa Eastburn take to the dance floor during
their wedding reception.
Brett Eastburn and his ring-bearer dog, Murray, get ready
for Brett's wedding ceremonies.
To learn more,/p> Brett Eastburn's Web site is http://www.bretteastburn.com/.
contact him, call him at 877-559-5744 or write to him at 17897
Main St., Tyner, IN 46572. His e-mail address is [email protected].
will be the keynote speaker at the third annual joint
YMCA-Home Management Resources fundraiser banquet Aug. 26 at
Century Center. The festivities also include a cash bar,
silent auction, a dinner and an oral auction by Jason Kaser,
one of Brett's classmates.
Admission is $40. For more
information, call 233-3486.
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Fifth of seven parts
Chrisa (Hill) Eastburn couldn't believe what a great night she
was having -- and that was even before she met her future
She and a friend, Mark Andrews, were at Corby's Irish Pub in
South Bend, and they had watched one patron ride a motorcycle right
through the bar while another guy with no arms and legs was beating
everybody in pool.
Brett Eastburn was the guy with no arms and legs.
"And while we were standing outside getting some air, that same
guy came out beside us," Chrisa adds.
Brett says he knows it takes some people a little time to warm up
to his lack of appendages.
"I can read people pretty well and I didn't sense any of that
hesitation with Chrisa," Brett says.
In fact, Chrisa remembers seeing Brett and his buddy, Chad Kling,
in the bar and saying to her friend, Mark, "Who's the short guy and
the cute guy?"
Chad is about 5 feet 3 inches tall, and that's who she meant by
the short guy.
The cute guy had captured the attention of the entire bar with
his pool playing, and then he went on to beat the owner in darts.
And now he was suddenly outside in his wheelchair and talking up a
storm to Chrisa.
"He asked me if I had a boyfriend," Chrisa says.
She told him no.
"And so he asked if I would go out with him," Chrisa adds.
She told him sure.
"And then he said, 'On a real date, right?' I told him yes. Then
he asked again if it would be a real date. I got a little annoyed at
that point and said, 'Yeesss.' How many times do you have to
"I had asked other girls out and then when we were on a date,
they would tell me that they were just out with me as a friend,"
He had plenty of friends. He wanted a girlfriend.
"I remember my buddy Mark saying to me, 'If you hurt this guy's
feelings, I'm going to kick your butt,' " Chrisa says.
She had no such intentions.
When Brett picked Chrisa up at the South Bend home of her parents
-- Malcolm and Kay Hill -- he knew there might be some
"And so what does he say to me before they go out the door?"
Malcolm Hill asks. "He tells me he that promises he won't lay a hand
on my daughter."
They went to Nick's Patio for a meal and then back to Corby's for
some pool. Brett remembers getting a kiss that night after a great
"I think we fell in love on the first date," Chrisa says.
Brett had his girlfriend -- and apparently his soul mate,
It didn't bother Chrisa that her steady stood only 2 feet 10 1/2
At one point when they were dating, Brett tried out his
"The only reason why he wore them when he was younger was to make
others more comfortable around him," Brett's mom, Barb Eastburn,
says. "His prosthetics were only for cosmetics, and we eventually
decided that people could take us or leave us."
Chrisa apparently felt the same. "He was looking me eye to eye
and it was as if he were on stilts," she admits. "I thought it was
sort of creepy. I liked him a lot better without them."
He was glad she felt that way.
After a few weeks of dating, Brett sent Chrisa a dozen red roses
on her birthday and came up with one of his all-time best jokes.
"I always said that the first guy to send me a dozen roses was
the guy I was going to marry," Chrisa recalls.
Brett was the first.
When Brett came over to pick up Chrisa later that night, Malcolm
actually carried Brett into the house so he wouldn't have to bother
with his wheelchair. (When Brett goes out, he usually uses his
manual chair with his guide dog, Murray, pulling him instead of
using his 300-pound electric one.)
When the roses were mentioned, Brett said, "Yeah, you will only
get roses one more time."
The room grew quiet, and Chrisa's dad even glared at Brett.
Then Brett delivered his punchline: "That's because they cost me
an arm and a leg."
Everybody cracked up. "I know that won over my parents," Chrisa
"I'm sort of a risk taker when it comes to jokes," Brett says. "I
know that sometimes they don't work."
This one obviously did.
"Brett is the best thing that has ever happened to our daughter,"
The Eastburns feel the same away about Chrisa. "I think they
complement each other very well," Barb says. "And her family has
accepted Brett when I knew there had been parents who didn't want
their girls even to go out with Brett."
Chrisa was ready for somebody like Brett.
"I was 23 and needed to settle down. I was going out too much and
not always hanging around the right people. Brett said to me, 'We
don't need to go out as much.' I told him that sounded fine with
"We were both ready," Brett adds.
They were married on May 27, 2000. Murray, Brett's service dog,
served as a ringbearer. Brett, of course, can't wear a ring on a
The guests at the North Liberty Church of Christ were wondering
what Brett would do with his ring until the minister told Chrisa to
put it in his left ear: an earring for a wedding band.
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